Man of a night become friend, youthful love or simply first husband: we all have in our lives, an ex that counts more than the others. The one who, despite our deep and sincere love for the one who has weighed you the ring of 3 carats, will never be relegated to the depths of oblivion.

But here is his presence really recommendable the day when we are about to say yes to someone other than him?

In the cinema, as in the series, the problem of the ex in the nuptial environment has been largely decided: it is not.

We all remember the famous scene of Friends when, on the day of his marriage, Ross pronounces the name of his ex (present in the assembly) instead of that of his promised, or Hugh Grant who drops his promise in front of such to find Andie MacDowell in "four weddings and one funeral."

In T he Notebook , Rachel McAdams challenges the very celebration of her marriage when she sees her early love in the local newspaper.  

So many examples we biberon pop culture to make us integrate the idea that the presence of an ex would be conducive to the resurgence of old feelings that were thought dead and buried, or even a reactionary epiphany inevitably leading to cancellation pure and simple marriage. But what about the "real" life?  

For Katia, the future bride in full preparation for the D- Day , it is categorical: the past is the past. Out of question, therefore, to invite one of her ex to her marriage in spite of the cordial relations that they maintain. "At the wedding of my cousin, his witness , who was also his ex, spent his time crying. Supposedly under the influence of emotion .... But it was very weird. "She tells us .

Conversely, Sophie, married for a year, sees no inconvenience. "My ex and I have remained good friends. It's a part of my life and it was important for me that he is attending the day as well as my loved ones, "she explains.

Only condition? The future husband must be aware of the presence of the said ex, to avoid any potential confusion in front of the Mayor. " How did you and Jean-Kevin have been together?" ". Hashtag embarrasses.

Because yes, one is never safe from a nostalgia session where the ex in question starts to remember aloud the anecdotes of fire your romance, between cheese and dessert. You can certainly have turned the page, and he, much less, especially if you have had a tumultuous story end, a long life together, or even in some cases, children together.

In other words, invite your ex if you like, but may be taking the time to verify that he, as you also are seen there than just a brand of sympathy that in no case chagrinera your tender half.